Couples Counseling

Couples, Marriage and Relationship Counseling

Are you unsure about the direction your relationship is going?

Do you worry that your partner doesn’t really understand or appreciate you?

Do you find yourselves fighting more frequently?

Do you desire more intimacy and romance, but struggle to find it?

For many seekers, terms such as “Couples Counseling” or “Marital Therapy” carry a negative connotation. Just the idea of it can make us feel anxious, confused and sometimes embarrassed. At New Connections Counseling Center, our therapists, view the decision to pursue couples therapy as an opportunity to strengthen and deepen your connection with your partner. It’s our privilege to provide you and your partner with a results-oriented, active approach to help you address your unique issues

Common Struggles for Those Seeking Couples Counseling:

  • Intimacy
  • Separation and divorce
  • Infertility
  • Relationships with extended family
  • Parenting
  • Remarriage

The New Connections Counseling Center Approach to Couples Counseling and Marital Therapy

At New Connections Counseling Center, our therapists use a unique blend of Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapy to work with couples.

Imago Couples Therapy Can Help

Imago relationship therapy is a highly effective form of relationship and couples therapy that has positively affected thousands of couples around the world.

The term Imago refers to the unique image each of us form from our earliest experiences with our primary care providers. From these early experiences, we learn what love is, how we receive love, and the ways in which we show love. One’s individual Imago is often unconscious and not understood. In Imago therapy, we see how each partner’s Imago is brought out when they are emotionally triggered. The closer we become to our partners, the more vulnerable we become and sometimes we begin to see and feel old relationship wounds coming to the surface. This often leads to unhelpful behavioral and communication patterns with our partners and over time we don’t know how to repair it.

In Imago therapy, we won’t help you “fight better,” we actually safely lean into the distress and discomfort you and your partner are feeling because this is where the key to true, lasting intimacy is. By using the structured method of Imago Dialogue, we will help you remove negative language from communication without neglecting your authentic feelings. The Imago Dialogue will help you gain a deeper understanding of not only what your partner is experiencing, feeling and perceiving, but the why. In Imago, we don’t mirror synthetic empathy for the person we think we are with, we embody a genuine and compassionate understanding for the person they truly are.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples Can Help

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s. It was developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. This science has expanded our understanding of individual dysfunction and health as well as the nature of love relationships and family bonds. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.

EFT believes that feeling connected to and loved by our partner is a primary need that we all share. When we fight with our partner, that feeling of love and connection can disappear. This is scary and alarming!

Think of a fight like an iceberg; part of it is visible, but the vast majority lies underneath the surface, waiting to be discovered. The topic of the fight is like the tip of the iceberg–whereas underneath are the real issues: “Am I safe with you?” “Am I special to you?” “Will you stick around if we disagree?”
EFT also helps you recognize that if you don’t feel safe in your relationship, there are two main ways you will respond:

Attacking. You get angry, criticize, and raise your voice
Withdrawing. You get quiet, turn away, and give the cold shoulder.

Does this sound familiar? If pursuing or withdrawing is happening in your relationship, don’t be alarmed–it’s normal to deal with relationship tension in these ways. The key is to realize that you really want love and connection with your partner–and pursuing and withdrawing often don’t get you that.

EFT believes that the strategies of pursuing and withdrawing happen within a cycle. When things aren’t going well, your interactions become a negative cycle that can spin out of control. The first step is to identify and name this cycle before it starts eating you up.

Begin Couples Counseling in Baltimore MD

You don’t have to live with an unsatisfying relationship. Or a high-conflict relationship. Counseling can help you improve your relationship. Our Baltimore counseling center has caring therapists who specialize in couples counseling and marital therapy. To begin, follow these simple steps:

  1. Contact New Connections Counseling Center
  2. Learn more about Emily Sheer, a New Connections therapist who specializes in couples therapy
  3. Start addressing what is hurting in your relationship and re-connecting with your partner

Other Counseling Services at New Connections Counseling Center

In addition to couples counseling, our Baltimore counselors provide a variety of mental health services at our counseling center in Baltimore, MD. Ultimately, our goal is not only to help you feel better but help you live better. Therefore, our services include therapy for depression, anxiety treatment, counseling for grief and loss, alcohol abuse treatment, counseling for life transitions, individual counseling for relationship issues, therapy for survivors of sexual assault, therapy for women, men’s therapy, and therapy for college students. Call our Baltimore counseling clinic today to learn about the many ways we can help you.

600 Wyndhurst Ave. Ste 307A
Baltimore, MD 21210

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