Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy

Wondering if couples therapy can help your relationship?

  • Are you unsure about the direction your relationship is going?
  • Do you worry that your partner doesn’t really understand or appreciate you?
  • Have you found yourselves fighting more frequently?
  • Do you desire more intimacy and romance, but struggle to find it?

Image of a Black male/female couple looking happy and in love. Their smiles symbolize the healthy communication skills you can develop in marriage counseling in Baltimore, MD. | 21209 | 21204For many seeking relationship help, terms such as “couples therapy” or “marriage counseling” carry a negative connotation. Just the idea of it may make you feel anxious, confused, or even embarrassed. At New Connections Counseling Center, our therapists view the decision to pursue couples therapy as an opportunity to strengthen and deepen your connection with your partner. Furthermore, it would be our privilege to provide you and your partner with a result-oriented, active approach to help you address your unique issues.

Common Reasons Couples Begin Marriage Counseling in Baltimore, MD

  • Intimacy
  • Separation and divorce
  • Infertility
  • Relationships with extended family
  • Parenting
  • Remarriage
  • Infidelity

Our Approach to Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy

The couples therapists at our Baltimore-based counseling center use a unique blend of Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to work with couples.

Imago Relationship Therapy

Image of a female/female couple hugging and smiling in their kitchen. Working through marriage counseling in Baltimore, MD can help couples discover their love for one another again. | 21286 | 21093Imago relationship therapy is a highly effective form of couples therapy. In fact, it has positively impacted thousands of couples around the world.

The term “Imago” refers to the unique image each person has from their earliest experiences with a primary care provider. From these early experiences, you learn what love is. Further, you learn how to receive love and how to show love. In fact, one’s individual Imago is often unconscious and not understood. So, in Imago therapy, you see how each partner’s Imago is brought out when they are emotionally triggered. The closer you become to your partner, the more emotionally vulnerable you both become. Sometimes, you may sense old relationship wounds coming to the surface. This often leads to unhelpful behavioral and communication patterns with partners and over time, you don’t know how to repair it.

In Imago relationship therapy, a couples therapist will not help you “fight better.” In fact, our therapists will actually help you safely lean into the distress and discomfort you and your partner are feeling. This is where the key to true, lasting intimacy is. By using the structured method of Imago Dialogue, your therapist will help you remove negative language from communication. And, you’ll be able to do so without neglecting your real feelings.

The Imago Dialogue will help you gain a deeper understanding of what your partner is experiencing, feeling, and perceiving, and why. Above all, in Imago, you do not mirror synthetic empathy for your partner. Instead, you embody a genuine and compassionate understanding for the person your partner truly is.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

Image of a young man and woman in a relationship sitting by a lake in their city. The joyful looks on their faces illustrate the happiness one can find with their partner after working through couples therapy in Baltimore, MD together. | 21210 | 21212Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy created in the 1980’s. It was developed alongside the science of adult attachment. This is an important developmental theory of personalities and intimate relationships. Certainly, this science has expanded our understanding of individual dysfunction and health.

Furthermore, it has helped us understand the nature of loving relationships and family bonds. Attachment theory views human beings as relational, social, and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotions and emotional regulation as key parts of individuals’ experiences and key relationship interactions.

How EFT Helps

EFT believes that feeling connected to and loved by your partner is a primary need. When you fight with your partner, that feeling of love and connection can disappear. This may feel scary and alarming!

Think of a fight like an iceberg. Part of it is visible, but the vast majority lies underneath the surface. For example, the topic of the fight is like the tip of the iceberg. So, underneath the tip are the real issues. Concerns may be:

  • “Am I safe with you?”
  • “Am I special to you?”
  • “Will you stick around if we disagree?”

EFT also helps you recognize that if you don’t feel safe in your relationship, there are two main ways you will respond:

  • Attacking- you get angry, criticize, and raise your voice
  • Withdrawing – you get quiet, turn away, and give the cold shoulder.

Does this sound familiar? If pursuing or withdrawing is happening in your relationship, don’t be alarmed. In fact, it’s normal to deal with relationship tension in these ways. The key is to realize that you really want love and connection with your partner. And, pursuing or withdrawing often don’t accomplish that.

EFT believes that the strategies of pursuing and withdrawing happen within a cycle. When things aren’t going well, your interactions become a negative cycle that can spin out of control. The first step is to identify and name this cycle before it starts eating you up.

Image of two young men in a relationship in an embrace in a park. This couple is representative of the many couples that reconnect with one another after working through couples therapy in Baltimore, MD to strengthen their relationship. | 21209 | 21204Begin Couples Counseling in Baltimore, MD

You don’t have to live with an unsatisfying relationship. Or a high-conflict relationship. Marriage counseling and couples therapy can help you improve your relationship. In fact, you can do couples therapy online or in-person for added convenience. Our couples therapists would be honored to help you and your partner reconnect. To begin, follow these simple steps:

  1. Reach out to us using our appointment request form.
  2. Get connected with one of our inclusive couples therapists.
  3. Begin feeling more in-tune with your partner than ever before.

Other Services at New Connections Counseling Center

Along with marriage counseling and couples therapy, our Baltimore-based counseling center offers individual relationship counseling and LGBTQ therapy. Our skilled therapists specialize in many therapies including those specifically for men, women, and college students. Further, if you have found yourself in the midst of a major life transition, our counselors would love to walk alongside you in that. And, we can meet with you wherever you are in Maryland with online therapy. Wherever you are at in life, our inclusive therapists want to help.

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