Our therapist, Alexandra Thrasher, reflects on what it really means to be vulnerable in the face of grief, drawing from a client’s experience. And invites us to think about the expectations we often carry when we open up to others—and what we might discover when we choose to stay true to ourselves.
Being vulnerable is risky. You open up, hoping to feel close—and sometimes, instead, you feel shut down.
One of my clients called her sister recently and said, “I’ve been missing Mom a lot lately.” She wanted comfort. But after a long pause, her sister quickly ended the call. Instead of supported, she felt rejected.
The next day in session, she told me, “I put myself out there, and she didn’t take it.”
Often when we reach out like this, it’s not just about comfort—it’s really us asking: “Do I matter to you?” And when the other person doesn’t respond the way we hope, it stings deeply.
But here’s another way to think about it: being vulnerable isn’t about their response. It’s about how you want to show up. Honest. Open. Genuine. Even if the other person can’t meet you there.
Vulnerability is strength. It’s how we live in line with our values, even in the face of uncertainty.
Next time you’re vulnerable, ask yourself: How do I want to show up right now? That’s the win—regardless of their response.
That’s exactly what my client realized. She wanted to be the sister who spoke honestly about her grief, who broke the family pattern of silence, and who modeled emotional closeness. When she focused on that—her values—she felt more steady and confident.
Finding Support When Vulnerability Feels Hard
If you’ve found yourself struggling to show your vulnerability—whether in grief or in other challenges—you’re not alone. It can feel painful when opening up doesn’t lead to the understanding or connection you hoped for.
Our Baltimore therapists specialize in supporting individuals through grief and loss, as well as the broader struggles of navigating life’s challenges. We provide a safe, empathetic space where you can be heard, understood, and supported as you learn to honor your feelings and stay true to yourself.
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