Q&A with Emily Scheer: Strengthening Your Relationship in Stressful Times
With everything happening around us lately, it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed. Every day, the news and social media remind us of the uncertainty, division, and stress that can seep into our lives—and our relationships. Political differences, global events, and personal challenges can create tension between partners, making it difficult to feel understood and connected.
In this Q&A, we sit down with our therapist Emily Scheer to explore practical ways to manage political differences, cope with uncertainty, and strengthen relationships in stressful times.
Whether you’re struggling with difficult conversations, feeling disconnected, or simply looking for ways to support each other better, this conversation offers valuable insights to help you move forward together.
Q: My partner and I have very different political views, and it’s creating tension. How do we talk about this without it turning into a fight?
A: First, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re on the same team. The goal isn’t to “win” but to understand each other better. Set some ground rules—like agreeing to pause if things get too heated.
Also, try asking open-ended questions instead of jumping straight into debate mode. Instead of, “How can you believe that?”, try “Can you help me understand what’s important to you about this?” You don’t have to agree, but you do have to respect each other. Focus on what you do share—your values, your relationship, your future—rather than just where you differ.
Q: The stress from government layoffs and job uncertainty is affecting my relationship. How can we support each other through this?
A: Job stress is no joke, and it can easily spill over into your relationship. The key is to face it together, not let it drive a wedge between you. If one of you is struggling, check in regularly—not just about job searches or money, but also about how you’re both feeling. A simple “How are you holding up today?” can go a long way.
Find small ways to relieve the pressure—whether that’s creating a budget together so things feel more in control, or planning low-cost ways to have fun and escape the stress for a bit. You’re stronger together, and reminding each other of that matters.
Q: What if my partner shuts down every time I bring up something stressful?
A: Some people process stress by talking it out, while others withdraw—it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care. Instead of pushing for a conversation right away, let them know why it matters to you. Try, “I don’t need you to have all the answers, I just want to feel like we’re in this together.”
Pay attention to when you’re bringing things up. If they’re already exhausted or overwhelmed, it might not be the best time. Give space, but also let them know their feelings (and yours) are welcome.
Q: With everything going on in the world, we’re both stressed all the time. How do we keep the connection alive?
A: When life feels heavy, it’s easy to put your relationship on autopilot—but that’s when you need connection the most. The good news? It doesn’t have to be big, grand gestures.
Find one small thing you can do daily to show up for each other—whether that’s a morning hug, sending a random “thinking of you” text, or setting aside 10 minutes at the end of the day to just talk (without distractions). Even in chaos, those small moments create security, and that’s what really keeps relationships strong.
Meet Emily Scheer, LCSW-C – Couples Therapist
Emily Scheer brings warmth, expertise, and a deep commitment to helping couples navigate life’s challenges. With a background in clinical psychology and social work, Emily specializes in guiding partners through communication struggles, relationship stress, and major life transitions. She has advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method Couples Therapy, equipping her with evidence-based strategies to strengthen relationships.
Whether working through political differences, financial stress, or emotional disconnection, Emily creates a safe space for couples to reconnect and grow. After losing her partner, Steve, in 2020, she developed an even deeper appreciation for the power of love, resilience, and meaningful connection.
That experience inspires her work every day—helping couples strengthen their relationships, communicate with intention, and truly cherish the time they have together.
Emily provides virtual couples therapy, allowing partners to access support from the comfort of their own homes. Online therapy has been shown to be just as effective as in-person sessions, and it can make it easier for busy couples to prioritize their relationship without the added stress of commuting.
Whether you’re looking to improve communication, navigate uncertainty in relationships, or reconnect, Emily is here to help. Get started by scheduling a free 15-minute consultation here.
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